The awesome blogs edition

So, lucky me! I was awarded the Awe-Summ!!!! award by the lovely Yvonne from Safe Space and I must list 7 things about myself which make me Awesome. Thank you so much Yvonne, that is so sweet. Needless to say, I love the Safe Space blog.

Item! This has brought up some stuff for me! Interesting. Of course I could easily identify the top 7 awesome things about my favourite ... say 100 people or so. But identifying them for myself. Well, that feels a little uncomfortable!

Apparently it is perfectly appropriate that the clients I see should love and accept themselves unconditionally ... and I of course believe I should too ... but talking about it? To others? In public???

Really happy about the bit where I talk about seven blogs that I like. Having been meaning to do that anyway. Perhaps I'll do that first (whilst taking deep breaths).

The Fluent Self - I really like Havi's blog ... she's a life coach specialising in - wait for it -destuckification!! and always has some great wisdom to share and is really courageous and open about her 'stuff'. Love her writing style and general wackiness. If you write a blog, you might like this post she wrote about finding your 'voice'. I just found it last week. Helpful!

The Art of Non-Conformity - if you've ever thought about how fab it would be to quit your job and travel for a living, visit Chris' blog. He also has these awesome free products that you should download immediately: 279 days to overnight success and the Brief Guide to World Domination. The thing I like about Chris is that he is so amazingly honest and ethical. Like he creates a product to sell and then gives you about ten reasons why it might not be right for you and why you shouldn't buy it. But he still makes a living out if this blogging thing, so clearly he's doing something right :)

Jesse's Mess - totally gorgeous and creative, Jess shares some of her lovely art on here. A woman of many talents, she's a great Kinesiologist too.

Auric Fields - Amanda is my Kinesiologist! And she's awesome, clearly, since I've been seeing her for about four years. Sometimes I think I should try another Kinesiologist just for research purposes. But I never get around to it. I think you should be the client you want to attract. And I do, yay.

Vibrant Living Wellness - Kristen is another Kinesiologist. We're twitter friends! She's writing a fab series about her chakra journey at the moment.

Monday Project - cute idea! Creative musings from friends based in Sydney and Melbourne who work on a project a month and invite others to join in.

Zen Habits - read by about a gallion people, always something to inspire.

Well. That was fun! Ok, so let's do this thing.

1. I am fab at taking action.
2. I'm sooo happy that I've passed through that depression stuff that plagued me during my teens and twenties. I'm good at growing and learning about myself.
3. I care for myself. I am gentle with myself. That might not sound huge but after years of criticising and judging myself, it is a big thing.
4. I'm a caring friend and girlfriend.
5. I like writing. And I'm happy with the blogging thing. I'm glad that I write my blog even though I'm soooo busy!!!
6. I am supportive of others.
7. I'm good at working with people who are anxious and stressed and stuck on stuff. I'm an expert on that! And I think it's what I'm meant to do :)

Below are the rules and guidelines to the Awe-summm award:

* List 7 things that make you Awe-Summm and then pass the award on to 7 bloggers you love.

* Make sure to tag your recipients and let them know they have won!

* And finally link back to the blogger that tagged you.

Freedom

Freedom, originally uploaded by kudumomo.

A little disappointed I've been MIA from my blog recently ... busyness is to blame, unavoidable this time ... but things will settle down soon! This I hope. I had a Kinesiology session of my own today and it came up that I'm living four months in the future ... and disbelieving that things will be calmer and more relaxed. What an unhelpful belief!

So we've obviously worked on that energetically, I'll do some reflection over the next few days and I have an essence to take for my Solar Plexus chakra (confidence, self esteem, will and positivity moving forwards).

Sometimes the issues we're dealing with seem unavoidable ... and the mind loves to label and project to some time in the future when 'things will be different'. Maybe they will!

But all we ever have is the now.

‘The present moment is sometimes unacceptable, unpleasant or awful. It is as it is. Observe how the mind labels it and how this labelling process, this continuous sitting in judgement, creates pain and unhappiness. By watching the mechanics of the mind, you step out of its resistance patterns, and you can then allow the present moment to be.

This will give you a taste of the inner state of freedom from external conditions, the state of true inner peace. Then see what happens, and take action if necessary or possible.

Accept – then act.

Whatever the present moment contains, accept it as if you had chosen it. Always work with it, not against it. Make it your friend and ally, not your enemy. This will miraculously transform your whole life,’

The Power of Now, Eckhart Tolle, p36.

Surrendering to emotion

Emotion, originally uploaded by BdwayDiva1.

'When you surrender and welcome any emotion that is present within you, something magical happens and suddenly it has the ability to pass through you.

It is only when you resist and fight against a mood or emotion, or think it shouldn't be there, that it gains power and the feelings intensify'

The best year of your life, Debbie Ford

Sometimes when we experience challenges we can think that there is strenth in resisting how we feel. How are you? Oh fine. It's not really that bad. I don't mind. I'm going to push through and just get over it ... I'm being POSITIVE!!!

Often in clinic, I find that people underestimate how much stress is affecting them. Rate it out of ten? Oh about 6. Really, that's interesting, your body says 9/10.

This is something I do myself. I remember when I started seeing my Kinesiologist and it 'came up' that I only thought it was ok to feel happy emotions and thought I should feel positive all the time. I was like, 'yes. That's exactly what I think.' Although I had some inkling this wasn't logical, I wasn't yet ready to realise that there are no bad emotions - and that by acknowledging and allowing them, they in fact lose power over you!

We don't always 'hear' the message our body/subconscious is telling us at the time, this is why I often say ... just see if something comes to you later.

It wasn't until I started studying Kinesiology myself that I noticed that some people were comfortable really exploring their 'weak spots', powerful emotions (not always the happy ones!) or the 'monsters under the bed that get bigger because you don't want to look at them' (as our lecturer used to say). They were getting amazing results and moving forwards. By confronting their pain, they were transforming. I started to get it.

Denial of your emotions is not equivalent to strength.

Oh That Body Language!

Oh That Body Language!, originally uploaded by malias.

I'm going to a yoga intensive with Andrew at Divine Grace in the mornings this week and the theme is synchronicity ...

After doing a series of quite hippy exercises and yoga postures with a partner to develop and show trust we started to share something about ourselves.

Turns out my partner had the same star sign ... and birth DATE and the same occupation. Well at least - she is a teacher and I used to be.

Isn't it funny how when you start to look for synchronicity it's everywhere.

I'm still amazed that I met my boyfriend (who I've never known to take public transport in the three years I've known him) on a tram. Why that day, that time, that tram?

The Pond - a metaphor for meditation

I'm kind of interested in meditation but isn't it just sitting quietly and thinking and what is the point of that anyway??

We had this discussion at Book Club when talking about 'Eat, Pray, Love' and it reminded me of the metaphor of 'The Pond' by Wayne Dyer, as explained in 'Your Sacred Self'. I love Wayne Dyer and have been reading his books since I was about 15 ... here is my interpretation.

So, The Pond.

Level One: The Surface

So this is where all the disturbances are ... the wind churns, the leaves mess, the rain pelts, the storms cause it to be violent. It's the 'chatter'. The mind reminding of all the stuff we need to remember and do and think about (almost like it will make a difference). Money, deadlines, health, work, appointments, family, holidays, arguments, movies you want to see, your cough, your car ... the daily stuff of life that flickers across your mind. No problems with any of it but totally exhausting to live here all the time (and a bit dull too). This is the stuff we think about because we think we don't have a choice. You totally do. Let's go deeper.

Level Two: Just Below the Surface

Yep you've let the chatter behind. And now you're analysing. Why did that happen, what was the reason, why does he/she think that way???? Oh you're such a thinker, and so deep. I get a bit stuck here sometimes. At this level you are constantly observing, commenting on and judging everything that happens. You know that if you can figure things out you will totally be able to relax. Only you never quite get to that point. Ok so stop trying to work it all out for a sec and let's try the next layer.

Level Three: Well Below the Surface

Now things are actually starting to get a bit more relaxing. Rather than analysing, you're starting to piece things together. The pattern is emerging, connections are taking place and things are beginning to make sense. You know you can't figure it all out ... but somehow that isn't important anymore and you're happy to just be with it all. Ahhh (in a good way).

Level Four: Stillness in Bliss

The thoughts are starting to slow right down and awareness is taking their place. You feel more silent and quiet and joy starts to come in. Oh ... so this is meditation! All the chatter, analysing and even the coming together of everything is left behind ... you just are.

Level Five: The Field of All Possibilities

Beneath all of that is the experience of everything and nothing and finding what is at the centre of your being.

Exciting!

Image: Rainbow Over Pond, originally uploaded by Frazzled Jen.

Kinesiology and the subconscious mind

So ... tell me again how you know that stuff about me ... are you psychic or something?

No!

Basically, when I'm muscle monitoring during a session, I'm asking your body or your subconscious mind what is going on, what is affected and what it needs to solve the problem.

The great news for you is that you don't need to know exactly what's going on, why you feel the way you do or what you want/need to do about it. Your body does! And I can communicate with it! Yay!

All you need is an open mind and a willingness to change/make connections/deal with your stuff. Because we all have stuff!

The first time you find out your body is eg seething with anger about a particular issue you don't even want to think about it can feel a little confronting. After that, it's kind of fun. Seething huh, well that's not really a word I would use but come to think of it I was a little annoyed. Guess it affected me more than I thought!

So why is it useful to work with the subconscious mind? Well ... have you ever tried to 'think happy thoughts' or said affirmations and then wondered why things don't really change? It's probably because you're only working with the conscious mind ...

‘If the desires of the conscious mind conflict with the programs of the subconscious mind, which “mind” do you think will win out?

You can repeat the positive affirmation that you are lovable over and over or that your cancer tumour will shrink.

But if, as a child, you heard over and over that you are worthless and sickly, those messages programmed into your subconscious mind will undermine your best conscious efforts to change your life’

The Biology of Belief, Bruce Lipton PhD

Pretty interesting huh! So that's why Kinesiology is so effective for goal setting.