Saturday, March 14, 2009

Letting go

Autumn has arrived! As the leaves begin to change colours over the next few months and fall to the ground will you...
  • be upset?
  • feel annoyed or frustrated with the tree?
  • try to change the speed of the leaves falling and make it happen more quickly ... or try and reattach the fallen leaves?
  • angrily point out that the leaves dropped last year and every year before that and is therefore unecessary?
  • feel like this is the end of ALL LEAVES...?
How ridiculous, right?

And yet when it comes to situations in our lives and the realisation we need to change old attitudes, beliefs, habits, behaviours, etc to move forwards, how often do we do these very things?

We might feel upset, angry or frustrated about the situation or ourselves, resentful we even have to deal with it, feel annoyed we have to continue to look at some of the same issues, wish it would happen faster/slower and feel like it's the END OF THE WORLD.

We accept the leaves will change and fall and that there is a reason for this ... to rest over the winter and to allow new life (attitudes, beliefs, habits, behaviours) to blossom. The tree can't hold onto the old leaves and create new buds at the same time!

In Chinese Medicine Autumn relates to the Metal element. With our lungs we take in and let go of air (life). Lungs relate to grief whilst the Large Intestines are to do with holding on and letting go. The colour is white and the sound is weeping.

The Metal element is about value - what do we value in ourselves and in life and how do we choose what is important to hold onto. And conversely, what do we allow ourselves to let go of. In balance, the metal element has a strong connection to God/the universe/your higher self (or whatever that 'something bigger' might be for you) whilst out of balance you might feel completely cut off and also disconnected from others.

If you are predominantly a metal element 'constitution' and out of balance you might find yourself wearing a mask as you face the world and feeling that noone truly understands you. Either holding onto everything (people, possessions, money, situations etc) or unable to hold onto anything.

Events like the recent bushfire devastation prompt us all to focus on what we value in our lives - and this nearly always comes back to the people we love and who love us. The key lesson of the metal element is to reconnect with your inner self and to see the bigger picture, the natural order of the universe...

Ask yourself, what do I need or want to let go of now? Am I going to make this process difficult for myself? Or am I going to accept it as I do the flow of the seasons?

Where to start? As Louise Hay says in 'You Can Heal Your Life', the first step is a decision: 'I am willing to change.'

1 comment:

  1. Oh Kerry I love this post!

    I have been in a state of bliss since last Tuesday's Eckhart Tolle seminar. I am letting go of so many things these days. I am accepting the change within myself and surrendering to what will be will be...

    May have to make an appointment with you as it's a very emotional time!